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Wedding Invitation Etiquette

July 7, 2008

When we’re working with clients on their wedding invitations, we get asked all the time about proper etiquette for gift registry information, “adult-only” receptions and other such topics.

Gift Registries –

Under any circumstances, ever, is it OK to include registry information or gift preferences in a wedding invitation. A couple may think they are offering a convenience by including registry information in their wedding invitation “Now my guests don’t have to hunt around to find out where I’m registered, right?”

Not exactly. Some people construe this as a blatant request for a gift.

What’s wrong with that? It’s customary and standard that wedding guests give the couple a gift. True. It is customary. But it’s not exactly a requirement, is it? That is a common misconception.

Furthermore, wedding guests also have a choice in what kind of gift to give the couple: An item from the couple’s registry, a monetary gift, a gift card to a retail store, or whatever they want to give. It remains their choice.

“OK, so I don’t want to include a registry card in my wedding invitation, but I do want to make it easy for my guests to see where I’m registered. How do I do that without being too forward?”

The answer is so easy and I truly hope everyone would do this.

Go onto,, or other similar site and build a simple wedding web site. It’s easy, it’s FREE, and it only takes a few minutes. You can put helpful information on the website, such as directions to the ceremony/reception, registry info or gift preferences, and a personal message from the bride and groom.

Then all you have to do is ask your friendly, helpful Not From a Box wedding invitation designer to place a small line at the bottom of your enclosure card:

For additional information, please visit:
(insert your wedding website address here)

There. No harm, no foul.

“What about my grandmother and Great Uncle Ralph who don’t have a computer, so giving them a web site would be useless?”

Because of a small portion of people on your guest list, you needn’t risk offending the rest. Simply tell your immediate family members and bridal party where you’re registered or your gift preferences, and word will surely get around.